Sunday, September 11, 2011

Misunderstood?

I remember a long time ago, I saw someone write in their sidebar something to the effect of "if you don't have something nice to say, don't say it on my blog." I wondered why anyone would be saying mean things on that particular blog in the first place. Now I know there are plenty of people that just like to say mean things under a faceless name.

For whatever reason, I seem to get an occasional mean comment. I don't allow anonymous comments, but it doesn't matter, they just put in some name. Sometimes it really hurts my feelings. Sometimes I think they're loony tunes.

I recently got one on the post about lice-- don't worry, I deleted it-- I don't mean to make a big deal out of it. But it did make me a little concerned that maybe I was sending a message that I hadn't meant to send? I thought she was just loony tunes. But I can't bare the thought of other people sharing her sentiments. So I just wanted to clarify.

In the post about Sophia's head lice... yes I did want to (partially for comic relief) try and assure myself and everyone else that we are not dirty people. That doesn't mean that I think others who have gotten lice are dirty people. I guess I hoped that was obvious since I'd just been through it. I know from the things I read that that is, however, an old-school sentiment... and wanted to help set the record straight. For selfish reasons of course. But I'm not sure that makes me shallow. Maybe it does?

Also, I said "In the future, if I ever get one of those notes home from school or think my kids were around some poor kid who got lice..."

And for heaven's SAKE, I didn't mean POOR... like a kid without money! Really??? It seems insane to me that it would be read that way. But maybe that's only because I'm the one who wrote it? Just please know, (in case my unfriendly commenter wasn't alone in her concerns over my humanity) I mean "some poor kid" like "poor baby". Like some poor, unfortunate kid (just like Sophia) who was unlucky enough to catch it from some other poor, unfortunate kid. And by unfortunate, I don't mean like "without fortune" as in without money. Oh boy.... this could go on and on...

So Rochelle, clearly you've made your mind up about me. Please feel free to move on. There's a wide world of people to criticize online, if you're into that sort of thing.

17 comments:

Ashley said...

How ridiculous. really. No other person would ever get that out of your writing... in less they were crazy too of course. ;)

melimba said...

oh my word. I'm speaking up. Whoever this commenter was---they're up in the night!

My sister, Emily, knew Ross in college and told me I'd like your blog, and of course she was right.

I've followed it for a while... through all the crazy drama with the print in your baby's nursery (That was SO stupid how it all got majorly blown up by lame people), and basically, I think your blog is great.

I think you have mad talent and your writing is awesome. And, after reading about your adventures in Lice Land, I was dying right along with you.

So, don't let some random commenter make you think that you are in the wrong. They are. And, people who twist words and make things up are just exhausting.

Anyway, keep on keeping on and know that you a fan all the way in Texas. Hope my "de-lurking" isn't creepy.

Christin said...

One word for her.........LAME! Some people just love going around griping on people's blogs. Hater!

Issa said...

Wow that person must really have had a bad day to have interpreted your post like that. Your blog is so fun to read, and it never fails to make me smile and feel like my day is a little brighter. Please don't change how you write. Your honesty and humor are so refreshing, and it would be a shame to have someone's mean comment change what you do so well.

Kristi M. said...

I am Lizzie's cousin on her father's side in Idaho and I jumped on over after she linked you up on hers from your trip together. I was immediately hooked with the way that you write. I love it. You write exactly how I am sure you are thinking, which is the best. I had to comment. People are so mean and take life out of context in general. Doesn't everyone say "that poor (fill in the blank)" all of the time, never assuming they are financially poor. Oh boy. My sister was the only one that has ever had head lice in our family. The first time my mom saw something jumping out of her hair in the middle of sacrament meeting! My mom immediately and quietly escorted her home to start the fun process of getting rid of it. The second time that same sister got it was after we had family over for Thanksgiving. These little kids were over and they started picking through my dad's hair. He asked why and they said they were looking for lice. We then discovered they had it, brought it with them, and proceeded to pass it onto my sister at some point. My parent's were not very happy about them being there knowing they had that problem. Ewww! I hope you don't mind me blog stalking!

heatherlynnbarry said...

Lillie, don' t let mean people get you down. So sad that people have to be so cruel. Keep up the great blog! I Love reading it. Loved the lice story too. It was pretty funny. To read that is:)

Heather

Lindsay Griffeth said...

oh, sheesh. Definitely a Looney Tunes.

I happen to love the way you write. I seem to always be able to relate and I love the realistic details.

Lowdogg said...

I still can't get the desitin flavored cracker post out of my head. You have scarred me for life. I just thought you should know. Me and the poor people with lice. Scarred by your writing and happy pictures. And by poor I mean people without money. They should wash better.

Jennifer said...

Does Lowdogg have a blog, because I live for his comments! LOL Seriously though, Lillie you rock. I believe those mean spirited commenters are just jealous. The fact that you even blog about something like this shows that are keeping it real and I don't believe you are shallow in the slightest. Those poor blog haters need to get their own blog and say whatever they dang well please! (I will just keep reading Lillie thank you :)

S.A.S. said...

Next time Rochelle doesn't even get her own post because this was all obvious. I love the things you share and am so grateful that you give highs and lows - like that Mila has a shrieking side (because Julia's having some pretty awesome moments and I need some assurance). Also, found out Paul had lice as a kid. He acted like everyone had. And his mother is one of the cleanest people I know.

Because My Sister Told Me Too.... said...

Kolette's little sister here and all I have to say is Blah! Blah to the nasty commentor. Lice is just a part of life when you've got school age kids or kids that go to daycare, or kids that go to friends houses, or go to the gym daycare. Let's face it, it's out there and you can get it pretty much anywhere. I loved that you wrote a post about it and I for one didn't misinterrupt anything you said. In fact just recently we got the letter home from my son's class and now I've been scouring our kids hair every day. I actually have a post going up about it tomorrow where I link back to your blog.

One bad thing about writing about head lice is that now I CAN'T STOP ITCHING.

ugh.

Amy

Because My Sister Told Me Too.... said...

Lice post actually goes up on thursday, in case you wanted to check it out!

Amy

inge said...

I just do not understand why people are so mean. If I do not like a tv programme I turn it off. I only read blogs I enjoy and yours is one of them. I thoroughly enjoyed your lice post.I sometimes say to my children if you do not have anything nice to say do not say anything at all. I think negative individuals should follow same. Do not be put off by people like this most of us who comment are just like you positive, fun loving, family people with a sense of humour.

Meadowbrook Properties said...

I know a family literally worth hundreds of millions. Their kids got lice. No misunderstanding here. 'nough said.

Brandon or Michelle said...

I will admit, the day I got a nasty comment from a random "lucinda" was the day my love for comments/my hope that my blog would be "successful" (followers increased) ended. I can imagine you have had to deal with much more than I ever will--thanks for staying strong through it all, and continuing to just be YOU. You're fabulous. You're wonderful. Thanks for keeping it real (well, as real as Maui can be :) ).

ps-lowdogg DID have an awesome comment this time. :) glad you allow him to keep keepin' on as well.

Rachelle said...

I certainly hope you didn't confuse this not so nice "Rochelle" with your ever adoring friend Rachelle. I've been super caught up in my own life lately and so haven't been blogstalking you like usual...and look what I find when I come back from my mini blog-haiatus (sp?), people with way too much time on their hands! Seriously, I hope you always know that for every one "hater" you get commenting on your blog, you have many other people that adore you for your kindness and candor. Just keep being yourself and trust that most of us get you and appreciate you for you!!! Anyone else can just suck their nastiness right back up, and next time learn to keep that nastiness to themselves!!! Love and miss you!
Rachelle

Unknown said...

How terrible that some people are so mean. I love your blog and always enjoy reading it! Thank you for sharing your lovely family