Friday, August 17, 2007

Sleep

(The picture doesn't really have anything to do with the post. But it's cute, and sort of illustrates her sleeping- which does have to do with the post-- that is if she slept on the couch, and in a swim suit, and with her eyes partly open... well use your imagination)

It's 9 am. I slept in until 8 (I say that like it was a luxury but it's been pretty standard these days), now I've eaten breakfast, paid the bills, cleaned the kitchen, ordered some potty training paraphernalia off of Amazon, returned some emails.... and am starting a post, and my daughter is still sleeping. It's bizarre. She's really been sleeping later and later over the past several weeks, starting before Florida. But since we got back from San Diego it's been crazy. We still shoot for a bed time in the 7's but often it's a little after 8 because her nap is later. Monday was good but I don't remember, Tuesday she slept 'till 9, Wednesday was 10:30!!!, yesterday was 8:20 with a very code brown diaper requiring a morning bath so I think that got her up before she wanted, and here we are at 9:06 without even a rustle behind her door! I'm feeling guilty for all the morning free time! (Hence the list of things I've done made out to sound more productive than they really were.)

She does always wake up at some point in the 7's and talk or hum for a few minutes... but we've always let her talk for a while before going in, and apparently she's learned to fall back asleep. Is there anything wrong with this?? With letting her sleep so late? She still takes her nap by 1 usually--- oh yeah and the nap! They used to be 2 hours or less and lately, 2.5- 3 for sure! Then she goes down, like I said probably at 8 after waking from her nap at 4. ( I know I'm doing the two many details thing again.) She couldn't get enough food in her yesterday, and she's been looking really skinny to me the last few days (I know many of you who commented on her perfectly protruding belly in the last post are scratching your heads, but really... she's been really skinny in the mornings.) So I'm wondering if she's just hit a growth spurt and needs a bunch of sleep and her skinniness is because she's getting taller. Or perhaps she's still sleeping off the sickness you heard all too much about. Or perhaps she just doesn't want to leave her bed because she knows that's the only place she gets her binky now. That could be. I don't know-- but by writing this, I'm reminding myself to SOAK IT UP. Because I'm sure this happy sleepy phase will be over before I get comfortable with it.

Speaking of sleep, I've been reading Babywise again in prep. for the new one. Been feeling pretty nervous at the idea of starting back at square one. What if it's all completely different this time? What if Sophia really was just born a good sleeper and the next one just isn't. That's very scary to me. I think I'll let myself believe the book until I'm proven wrong, at my wit's end, and venting on here all about it. Until then if anyone's curious, I think Babywise is a good one if you're having your first little one and need direction in the sleep dept.

I'm writing too much-- too much about nothing. Pretty sure nothing exciting has happened. Ross and I have to give talks in church on Sunday and because we have of course, procrastinated, there's our weekend.

Oh and I bought a cute big-girl bed for Sophia off of Craigslist. I haven't seen it in person yet since I found it in San Diego-- so my dad went and picked it up this morning. Cute white sleigh twin bed. I'm SUPER excited for her to be in a big bed, because the room will be cuter, but I'm TERRIFIED to mess with her sleep right now. So many transitions all of a sudden! I feel all this pressure to potty-train, de-binky, and move her to a big-girl bed... when part of me just wants to keep the sailing as smooth as possible through the baby coming and not change a THING. So... I just very well might have a crib sleeping, diaper wearing, binky using three year old along side my 1 year old. And I'm not sure if I care yet.
9:36: And she just started singing.

11 comments:

Brandon or Michelle. said...

:) I'm one less than one month away from a binky-loving, diaper wearing 3-year old. At least he's in a big boy bed, or I might be REALLY tempting to you.

I think what babywise taught ME is that try as you might, some babies AREN'T going to be textbook.. (yep, you guessed it...zane wasn't a good sleeper and I was sure it was all my fault, like I'd read too quickly through a chapter or something, and had screwed it all up)..maybe that lesson was good to learn early on, because I just can't say that I'm stressed. Is he happy? Is he bothering anyone with his diapers or binky? Is he at all interested in potty training, or is it just going to be a negative experience?

who knows, maybe I'm in denial. here's a thought. when you have a big girl undies wearing, de-binkied little one on your hands, COME AND TEACH ME HOW TO DO IT! :) until then, feel completely fine about yourself. :) sound good?

Brandon or Michelle. said...

oh dang, take out the first "one" in my comment..makes no sense.

Lillie said...

But Michelle, I have a girl. There's all sorts more pressure in the potty training department with girls. And it's the idea that I'd be 0 for 3 that kind of gets me. But still, I know, what does it really matter?

About the book-- I know enough people that tried it, and everything else for that matter-- and still had no luck. So I know it doesn't work for everyone. I just hope the next will magically be like Sophia and take to it just fine. :)

LAUREN said...

Lillie, I SO KNOW HOW YOU'RE FEELING!!! I remember having all of your exact same thoughts while I was prego with Taggart. Grace was 3. We didn't "get rid" of her binky until after she was 3. I started potty training right as she turned 3. The whole nap thing-I think your schedule is fine. At least my kids have always slept until about 4-4:30ish and then go to bed around 8 or 8:30. They (Grace mostly) will wake up about 7:30, sometimes earlier or later.
My suggestion on everything would be to just go with the flow. I totally agree with you holding off on "all the sleep changes" for Sophia right now. One thing at a time. Potty training will come when she's ready. You can't force her. Try at first just sitting on the potty, then progressing from there. If you need more advice (like I'm an expert in any way) just email or ask! Good luck. Do you have a name picked out for beautiful Biesinger girl #2? Until then, I think she should be called beautiful Biesinger, just like her Momma! :)

Becky Freestone said...

i love that sleeping in to you is 8:00. i woke up at 9:45. do i feel guilty? no, b/c i know that i will never get to do that again once i become a mom. i love that sophia sleeps in that position. she really is so dang cute. i want to meet her one day. next time zac and i make a trip down to southern california we will have to come say hi.

The rlmmmmcaress Family: said...

Lillie, my daughter is with yours in nursery and a whole year older and is still begging for pull-ups. All I can say is that if Sophia is potty trained before mine, I will be completely bonkers. So hold off on your super-human mothering skills and save me some embarrassment, will ya?

It is much easier to imagine yourself as the perfect mother of the perfect child than deal with the realities that it is really hard. Anyone who says anything different is on heavy medication, in denial, or a liar. The important part is that it is all worth it. And an opportunity to learn patience.

Lowdogg said...

Why is there more pressure to potty-train girls?

Cassie, Jordan, & Jackson Gardner said...

Ross & Lillie! - Sweet blog & what a cute family! I ran accross your blog by clicking through some common friends who have also blogs. I'd love to catch up some time - hope things are great for y'all.

Lacy said...

Hey- very cute picture! Write another post please! You are so fun.

Missy said...

Wait, I was confused about the peer pressure too. Do people wonder more why a girl isn't potty trained than a boy? I haven't reached that milestone yet so please keep us informed via biesinger.blogspot.com

Regardless, I think you got a very good sleeping baby there. While Ave is NOW a good sleeper (probably b/c she was so terrible as a newborn-5 month old) I don't think any book would have worked to "make" her a better one. It doesn't hurt to try what worked for you the first time though.

I love that she slept in until 10:30 one day. How great is that?

Lindsay & Weston said...

I've been meaning to call you! I've been trying the Babywise thing and it's definitely not for my little man. I do want to talk to you though about how it worked for Sophia. nate isn't a bad sleeper by any means but I'm definitely trying to get him on some sort of a regular schedule. I recieved an adorable package today from you....THANK YOU! Talk to you soon...